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My question is what if one has a desire to have oral sex (i.e, sucking/licking private parts or organs) with his wife and the wife wants it too or the vice-versa? and if we had done oral sex what is the ruling or is there any punishment? As in Islam it is not haraam or nothing proven, only Islamic scholars had raised an objection for oral sex but they too had not declared as haraam? Can we have oral sex, Pls adv....
Also I want to know if it is permissible in Islam for a man to remove hairs from chest for sexual pleasure or for any other reason?
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Why oral sex unlawful and remove chest hair
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Your Question: As in Islam it is not haraam or nothing proven, only Islamic scholars had raised an objection for oral sex but they too had not declared as haraam? Can we have oral sex, Pls adv....
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 222-223:
222 They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: ‘They are a hurt and a pollution; so keep away from women in their courses and do not approach them (for sexual intercourse) until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves ye may approach them in any manner time or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.’
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah will not (even) look at a man who has intercourse through the anus."
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2157 Narrated by
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘He who has intercourse with his wife through her anus is accursed.’
Allah and His Messenger (saws) have specified as absolutely unlawful for a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to enjoy conjugal relations with his wife during her menses and through her anus.
Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, it is obvious that the act of ‘oral sex’, whereby one spouse derives pleasure by touching the private parts of the other with their mouth is obviously unnatural, unhealthy, unhygienic, unclean, impure and this act is not found even in any of the lower animate creations!
Because oral sex is a new deviation of mankind, it finds mention neither in the Quran nor the Sunnah, just as there is no mention of the permissibility/impermissibility of man deriving pleasure by trying to enter the woman through her nose, ears, navel, etc.!!!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 157:
157 Those who follow the Messenger, the ‘Ummi’ (unlettered) Prophet (Mohammed (saws)) whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures); in the Law and the Gospel; for he (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil: he allows them as lawful what is ‘tayyibaat’ (good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad, evil and impure); He releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them. So it is those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him: it is they who will prosper."
But since the permissibility/impermissibility of this specific act of what is known today as ‘oral sex’ is not mentioned by name or act anywhere in the Quran and the Sunnah, the God-fearing and the pious amongst the scholars in Islam have abstained from declaring it ‘haraam’; the most they have said is that the act is from the ‘khabaaith’ (impure) and thus closer to the haraam than to the halaal, and the believers should fear Allah and abstain from it.
The Prophet (saws) said "Both the halaal (lawful) and the haraam (unlawful) things are (made) obvious, and in between them are (suspicious) doubtful matters. So whoever forsakes those doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will definitely avoid what is clearly unlawful; and whoever indulges in these (suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to commit what is clearly illegal. Sins are Allah's Hima (i.e. private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to get in it at any moment."
Your Question: Can we have oral sex
Beloved brother in Islam, because nothing is mentioned regarding the act of ‘oral sex’ in the Quran and Sunnah, the scholars have abstained from declaring it outright ‘haraam’ or unlawful. But without an iota of a doubt, the act of ‘oral sex’ is by consensus of the scholars and jurists in Islam considered to be amongst the ‘Khabaaith’ (impure), and is unnatural, unhealthy, unhygienic, and unclean, and thus in its essence closer to the unlawful than the lawful in Islam.
Given the unbelievable liberty Islam has granted to the husband and the wife to enjoy conjugal relations in their sacred bond of marriage, in our humble opinion, it would be best for the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day to strive to abstain from this doubtful act of ‘oral sex’; and Allah Alone Knows Best.
Your Question: Also I want to know if it is permissible in Islam for a man to remove hairs from chest for sexual pleasure or for any other reason?
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 5791 Narrated by Ali ibn AbuTalib
I saw Allah's Messenger on the day (of the battle) of the Trench carrying earth till the hair of his chest were covered with dust and he was not a hairy man.
It is recorded that the Messenger of Allah (saws) did have some hair on his noble chest, but since there is no specific prohibition in Islam regarding the removal of the hair on one’s chest, the majority of the jurists in Islam are of the opinion that if one wishes to do so for any reason whatsoever there is no prohibition, nor harm, nor sin.
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