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Dear Brother Assalaamu Aleikum!
My question is that I`m from
I can`t marry other than Ismaili. And if I know my deen well then I change my husband`s mind. Is it only for a man that he can marry a non-muslim woman or can a woman also marry a non-muslim man?
Your sister in Islam
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Marry aga khani Ismaili
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Question: …..but the problem is that we can`t marry oustside our
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221:
Nor marry (your girls) to disbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than un unbeliever even though he allure you. Disbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His Praise.
Allah Subhanah, your Lord and Creator, and the Sole Master and Sustainer of everything in Creation has declared that is legal and lawful for a believing woman to marry any eligible (non-mehram) man from amongst the believers.
When Allah Subhanah Himself has made lawful for you to choose to marry one eligible from amongst the absolutely vast believing community…why would one wish to restrict their choice to seek to marry from only amongst the community they were born into and have subsequently left because of their practice of falsehood???
Your Question: ….The reason is that, if we marry oustside with a muslim then what`s the surity that the man is true and a believing muslim.
There are literally a million ways to check if the person who claims to be a muslim is indeed God-fearing and a true believer….but if you marry one from your prior community, you are almost guaranteed that that person is a believer of utter and manifest falsehood at its best, and a doer of ‘shirk’ at its worst!
Your Question: Is it sinful to marry an Ismaili despite knowing that I`m not following that faith?
Because the believers of the Ismaili faith verbally declare belief in the Absolute Oneness of Allah Subhanah and the appointment of Prophet Mohamed (saws) as the Last and Final of Messenger of Allah, they will be considered legal muslims in the sight of the Law.
But since you were born into that faith, and your Lord subsequently blessed you to understand and align your beliefs to the guidance of the Glorious Quran…..you would know better than anyone else, the major ‘discrepancies’ and ‘differences’ that exist between the faith you were born into and the Truth of the Glorious Quran!
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.15 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whoever possesses the following three qualities will have tasted the ‘sweetness (delight) of faith’:
1. The one to whom Allah and His Messenger (saws) becomes dearer than anything else.
2. One who loves a person and he loves him only for Allah's Sake.
3. One who hates to revert to disbeleif as he hates to be thrown into the fire."
Respected sister in Islam, maybe it is time that your heart should taste the ‘sweetness of faith’….ie. to hate to revert back to disbelief just as one hates to be thrown into the Fire!
Your Question: I can`t marry other than Ismaili.
Why not??? The reason you have given earlier ‘what`s the surity that the man is true and a believing muslim’ is just not good or sound enough!
Your Question: And if I know my deen well then I change my husband`s mind.
What if you don’t know your ‘deen’ enough? What then?? What if even after your best intentions and efforts, you are unable to change the beliefs your husband has been born into? What then??
If knowing one’s deen of Islam well was reason enough to marry one who practices disbelief and shirk….then the Lord All Knowing, All Wise would have made it lawful for the believers to marry disbelievers….but in His Absolute Wisdom and Perfect Knowledge, the Lord Most Majestic Most Supreme has categorically prohibited the believers from marrying idolatrous disbelievers!
We reiterate again sister, that followers of even the orthodox ‘Ismaili’ faith verbally declare the Absolute Oneness of Allah Subhanah and the appointment of Prophet Mohamed (saws) as the Last and Final Messenger….thus legally it would be lawful for a believer to marry amongst them. But when one knows with absolute conviction that the practice of their deen encourages them to practice ‘kufr’ and ‘shirk’…..it would only be prudence and intelligence that the believers do not bring upon themselves a trial which they might not have the ability to bear!
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,