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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Assalam o alaikum just want to know that is there any restrictions that after menses i mean without the ghusl of menses can we have sex by doing only wazoo. coz frm the last 2 to 3 times we r doing sex without doing the ghusl of menses but iam cleaning myself with soap my private part n doing wazoo by intention to get pure .....so reply my answer as soon as possible waiting for reply. thnks. allah hafiz
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Ghusl after menses for sex
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222:
222 They ask thee (O Prophet (saws)) concerning women's courses (menstruation). Say: ‘They are a hurt and a pollution; so keep away from women in their courses and do not approach (have sexual intercourse with) them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves (through ‘ghusl’) ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.
It is absolutely and categorically forbidden and prohibited for a believer to have sexual intercourse with his menstruating wife, unless and until the wife has first cleansed herself with a ‘ghusl’ or full bath of purification after her period of menstruation.
The washing of the private parts of the woman or the mere performance of the ‘wudu’ does not purify her from her impure state of menstruation; for the menstruating woman to be able to offer her prayers, or fast, or perform the ‘tawaaf’, or enjoy conjugal relations with her husband it is absolutely obligatory for her to first purify herself with a ‘ghusl’ or full bath of purification.
If in ignorance of the Laws or Boundaries of Shariah one has enjoyed conjugal relations with one’s menstruating wife before she has cleansed herself from her state of ceremonial or major impurity through a ‘ghusl’, one should turn unto their Lord in ‘taubah’ and seek sincere repentance for their transgression…..if they are indeed sincere in seeking repentance and amend their conduct thereafter, it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,