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AS SALAM O ALEIKUM WA RAHMATULLAHI WA BARAKATUH MAY ALLAH BLESS you for helping Muslims and non Muslims to understand their purpose in this temporary life. MAY ALLAH GIVE you reward for all your work, i am regular visitor of this site and i take daily lessons from here. ALHAMDULILLAH your way of teaching Islam is so effective I'll be grateful to you if you please tell me importance of keeping promise in Islam please .ALLAH also don't break HIS PROMISES. My question is can a woman live unmarried throughout her life if she can control her desires of getting married and if she can avoid all forms of illegal things please? If a woman talked to a man before marriage about Islam but both start to feel for each other and she made a promise to man to marry only him and no other man in full concsiousness, and then she realizes that her talking to man other than Islamc topic under strict limits is forbidden and she leaves talking to man , can she keep her promise all her life of not getting married except for one man she likes because of his taqwa and pious character please? Can parents force a woman to get married if she doesn't feel comfortable marrying please? If a woman dont get married due to her promise and love for the pious man and parents get hurt for not seeing their child married, is it a sin please? Please note that the girl don't want to break her promise and she is unable to feel comfortable with marriage with other man please. I request you please reply all questions i made in this message, i'll be grateful to you, MAY ALLAH REWARD you Wassalam A sister.
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Girl don't want to get married
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There is no compulsion to get married in Islam. If a woman does not want to marry her parents cannot force her. Her consent is necessary.
If you have given your word to a man to marry no one except him, then the right thing to do is to get married to him as soon as possible or you may ask his forgiveness and then marry another if you wish.
A woman can remain unmarried all her life if she remains within the Islamic boundaries of not committing any sins. But if her parents desire her to get married, she should accept if the man is pious and acceptable to her. Every parent would want their daughters to get happily married and the daughters are duty bound to obedience if the parents command/request is genuine and not un-Islamic. Daughters should not refrain from marriage for frivolous reasons.
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