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Dear Brother, As salaam aleikum, I am living abroad with my husband and two beautiful children. Its almost 10years past when we married and allhamdulliah we had a great time together. Now my husband want me to go back and stay back with his family in our own country We have some financial matters to solve and in the main time he wants his children to stay with his parents so they can feel happy please let me clear there they already have children from their other sons and daughter. We had a love marriage and as I said earlier we ares still very happy with each other but now I am a kind of hearth patient too, Now my questions are In Islam there is any right for a wife if she wants to stay with his husband at any place or condition where her husband lived ? Make a mutual separation between husband and wife is right when you both need each other to enjoy your happy marriage life? One can ignore his children responsibilities & rights and make a distance between him and his children who are still in that age where they need both Mother and father. If I refuse to him and always wanted to stay with him will Allah angry with me? What if I feel and want him with me in some special and cheerful moments or if I need his moral support during my illness and he will not with me to satisfy me then who will responsible for that. I know are my questions are too long but now I am felling guilty in my own and want to know what I should do which will acceptable in Islam and Allah will be happy with me.
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Rights of a wife if she want to stay with her husband
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Beloved Sister you are within your rights to humbly insist on staying with your husband and children. If your husband's financial conditions are scarce and he cannot afford to bear the expenses for you and the children to stay in a foreign country then you should mutually agree for the sake of the family to return to your homeland.
However, you have the right to insist on a separate accommodation from his parents house. Your husband cannot force you to stay with his parents. He must arrange your separate accommodation.
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