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Dear and beloved sister in Islam, in a moral and righteous society that Islam strives to build, it is inconceivable and there is absolutely no concept that a believing woman, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, would seek to marry someone herself without the prior consultation and consent of her parents/guardians (Wali).
Your Question: I have been informed that after a Muslim woman reaches a certain age she no longer requires a Wali to marry is this true?
There is a difference of opinion amongst the Jurists in Islam regarding the validity of a marriage without the consent of the ‘Wali’ or guardian of the bride. Imam Abu Haneefah of the Hanafi School of thought holds the opinion that as long as the all the other pre-conditions of marriage are fulfilled, if for any reason one does marry without the consent of the ‘Wali’ or guardian of the bride, such a marriage will be deemed valid and legal. The other three major schools of thought, Malik, Shafei, and Hanbali are of the opinion that the consent of the ‘Wali’ is an obligatory condition of marriage, and a marriage without the consent of the ‘Wali’ would be deemed null and void.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2078 Narrated by Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians (Wali) is void.’ (He (saws) said these words) three times.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3137 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A woman may not give another woman in marriage, nor may she give herself in marriage; for the immoral woman is the one who gives herself in marriage."
Under normal circumstances, especially when the parents of the girl are alive and are believers, it would not BEHOVE and befit a believing woman who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, to marry someone without the prior consent of her parents/guardians.
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